The Competition Between Women That You Don't Want To Believe Exists

I've seen this quote floating around the internet a lot and I need to explain to you how wrong it is, both in the world of flowers and the world of women; actually the world of human beings.

The World Of Flowers:

Pro Tip: Men are often less attracted to women who use uninformed statements to justify their own lack of ambition.

I'm more interested in people, so I'm only including this part to keep you from looking painfully uninformed on the internet. For proof "a vicious turf war is being waged" between flowers and other plants fighting for light, visit this link : http://www.producer.com/2012/06/how-plants-compete-in-battle-for-sunlight/

now on to the world of women.

World Of Women:

Just as flowers compete for the sun's light. You must compete for what you want, the shorter the supply, the more competition there may be for it. This is simple logic that is proven throughout the animal kingdom, world of flowers, world economics, etc, etc.

Many of you have one foot in a dream world.

The idea is nice, women shouldn't have to compete with other women, or other men for that matter. Their sheer kindness, sweet nurturing nature, and the fact they can birth a baby should mean that without effort, personal growth, or anyone standing in their way, they'll receive whatever their dreams may be. This is obviously not the way things are though, and you only stand in your own way by believing it.

The Real World:

You want the best paying position at the best company for your chosen profession, you know you'll have to compete.

You want a man with favorable traits that you find attractive? Well unless you have very unusual definitions for "favorable traits" and "attractive", then you know you'll have to compete. The only way not to compete with other women for a man is to either be attracted to men that no other woman would want or to effortlessly be so much better than other women that no one could call them your competition.


Competing Doesn't Make You A Bad Person
(but how you do it might)
I've seen guys get upset at each other because one called dibs on a woman then the women liked the other guy and ended up date him. I hope we can all agree this is dumb, and you can't call dibs on a person.
In the same way, it's not wrong for a woman to have interest in a man even after a different woman in her circle expressed interest. let compatibility decide.
On the other hand, don't mud sling, don't lie, don't be spiteful.
If an athlete gets a bad attitude during completion the coach will bench them. If you feel yourself getting a bad attitude, bench yourself.


Preoccupation With Competition

My friend pointed out "There is, however, a vast difference between the existence of competition and a preoccupation with competition" and I agree. Just like I told the guys in 5 Reasons Why Women Don't Date "Nice Guys" (Because They Shouldn't), "No matter how you improve, there is always someone better than you and always room to grow. Be happy with who you are and what you have, but also away be planning how you're going to move forward, improve, and grow."

Be happy with who you are and don't let your goals and desires own you. If you do have a desire or goal don't expect it to be handed to you, and understand what it takes to get what you want.